Have not updated my blog in months. And the significant other has started to nag me. 'When was the last time you blogged?' he asked.
The reason for the lack of blog posts is usually the same. The lack of time. Or more often the lack of inspiration.
And I guess, the truth is…
The strive for perfection.
I am unable to post up a blog post that I do not feel strongly about. In other words, I refuse to write for the sake of writing. Maybe I should. Because then, I would probably have more frequent posts, and more regular readers. 
The strive for perfection is also often the bane when it comes to singles looking for a mate.
Is he tall enough? Is she pretty enough?
Does he earn enough? Is she slim enough?
Is he really nice? Or is he faking it? Or why is he SO nice? There must be something wrong with him.
And when we finally meet the right person, we realise that, they are not perfect after all. Because we have come to realise that it is not possible to find someone who's perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and more often than not, we have many flaws.
It is better to build a relationship with someone who is 'not so perfect' but whom you love, rather than spend your whole life trying to look for that perfect someone, only to be sorely disappointed to know that he or she does not exist.
And so, what is the definition of perfect?
After being in a relationship with the significant other for 11 years, and being married for 6 years… I have realised that… life's perfect when you are contented…. and happy. It's all in your state of mind.
When you are feeling fulfilled and blissful, everything is perfect…
You can't search out perfection. Perfection will come searching for you! When you have finally put away your check list syndrome, get rid of your emotional baggage, lower your defences, open up your heart… and go into the relationship with an open mind, and a positive attitude.
All the best in your path to meeting perfection…!
P/S I promise I would work on posting more regularly instead of seeking perfection.
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Violet Lim
VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.
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